I used to get horrible cramps when my little red friend came to visit. For some reason, after I had my oldest son, they weren't as bad (or maybe I didn't notice it as much because I was too busy chasing him around.) After my second child I had my tubes tied (I don't want anymore, and my doctor told me any more might possibly be dangerous to my health, so he tied my tubes at 24)and after that, although I still get the occasional cramp, it's not the hot-water-bottle-in-bed-with-extra-strength-tylenol cramps I had before. And since it is messy, I'll give myself several enemas to clean myself out very thoroughly and hubby and I use the 'back door' or the mouth to pleasure ourselves with until Mrs. Happy's fully operational again. He loves my BJ's.