safeword..he wants me to say it?

[ashsoul]

Well, if I look at my fantasies there are no uses for "safewords", I would like not to have to use them. Even if it sounds crazy, if I would find a domme that I like, after that in a methaphorical sense I would give up to her all control as in a "contract". My fantasies mostly are non-consensual I have to admit, but since I have no experience my judgement that I need no safewords might show to be foolish, however, I would like to give up all control. No safewords. How does a domme/dom know that I would not use a safeword for my own confort?

[eden]

A good Dom/me may push a subs limits to help her/him grow in their submission. A good Dom/me should be able to tell when a subs limit has been reached during play. If this was your first play time together, then He may have gone too far too fast.

Don’t be afraid to use your safe word. Its your safety net and its there for a reason. I have two safe words. “NO” which means ok that’s my limit, but its still ok to continue at this level but not beyond it, and the other is “STOP” which meant exactly that.

Hugs ya.

[TomOfSweden]

A good Dom/me may push a subs limits to help her/him grow in their submission. A good Dom/me should be able to tell when a subs limit has been reached during play. If this was your first play time together, then He may have gone too far too fast.

Don’t be afraid to use your safe word. Its your safety net and its there for a reason. I have two safe words. “NO” which means ok that’s my limit, but its still ok to continue at this level but not beyond it, and the other is “STOP” which meant exactly that.

Hugs ya.

yeah, this is my practice to. "Stop" and "no" are allready safewords in our language. Unless you've got a specific fetish about saying "no" or "stop" and the Dom keeps going. But in my experience it isn't all that common.

[jeanne]

yeah, this is my practice to. "Stop" and "no" are allready safewords in our language. Unless you've got a specific fetish about saying "no" or "stop" and the Dom keeps going. But in my experience it isn't all that common.

I'm a talker (no gags here ) and I say "Oh no" and "Don't stop" alot. Both in the best, most "OMG this is great" way! What a tragedy if my husband only heard "no" or "stop" and did! Since we've only just begun, safewords aren't established yet (soon, though, since I'd like to go farther) but for me "no" and "stop" wouldn't work at all.

I guess at some point I'll actually ask him to push my limits to the point that I use my safeword - so I'll know for myself that I am willing to say it before I accept/do something I'll regret. That day is pretty far down the road at this point though.

This is a great thread - has made me think...