Quote Originally Posted by ceegee{Benz} View Post
those who would run a mile if they actually got to see how much bdsm involves and that it isnt all about whips and chains and rope but it goes much much deeper than that.
Thanks for putting that in words. This is a critical difference between the stereotype and the reality that I'm only just learning about. It's something that comes across time and again from the pages of these forums. The subs give a great part of themselves to their Dom and this manifests, at least partially, in offering their bodies to the physical activities we all love. But the counterpoint to that is that the subs here all seem to be blessed with Doms who would move heaven and earth for them if required.

Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52
The fact that the sub/slave chooses to be a sub or a slave would indeed be contradictory if BDSM were about "taking" control... but as you're beginning to see from virtually all the responses, BDSM is actually about "giving" control.
That's it condensed perfectly into one sentence. It's about giving.