Quote Originally Posted by nk_8950 View Post
Is it just me, or is the whole control of power thing in a BDSM relationship contradictory?

Every sub (hopefully) on this board has chosen to be a sub, or slave; some have limits that can be pushed by whoever is the their dom, but in the end its their choice how much power a dom really has.

If it gets to a point where a sub is being pushed to do stuff that he/she does not want to do, then that would be equivalent to an abusive relationship, wouldn't it?

Anyhow, it's just something that I've been thinking about for a few days, so I thought I'd get your opinions about it.

The fact that the sub/slave chooses to be a sub or a slave would indeed be contradictory if BDSM were about "taking" control... but as you're beginning to see from virtually all the responses, BDSM is actually about "giving" control.

You were working from a conceptual definition of BDSM that is incorrectly perceived and 'taught' by those outside of the lifestyle.