Why the 24 hour bdsm?

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Okay, Eraser. You win this time. I'll play your little bit-by-bit, quote-by-quote post layout game!

Thats a rather unfair statement. Would I say its cause life altering of any of those? Absolutely not. That specific example HAS caused many of those.

Well, if you're willing to make sacrifices that large for the sake of another's will, then I suppose that's up to you. But I wouldn't, and I wouldn't want anyone else to do so for me.

Are you saying then by acting in the sense as we have discussed is unhealthy?

Of course not. I'm saying I'm concerned. Though I didn't directly mean the thread to be about my concern. I meant it more so that I could understand it. I bring up my concern mostly just because I want to admit that it may colour my discussion of it and warn people that I can be biased. Also because part (though definitely not all) of the reason I seek to understand it is so I can see if I can alleviate that concern.

I"m not ignoring this fact at all, but are you saying that all women are submissive are doing so only because of social programming?

I'm saying that it is possible, and also that other psychological reasons which are not healthy could get people involved in bdsm. I know many people deny this possibility, and they are welcome to do so, and I'm not going to tell them have to do otherwise. I personally refuse to deny the possibility, no matter how much people tell me I should, until I see proof either way.

What I simple mean to say is, just because you or I can qualify foundational proof that BDSM is "damaging" or "harmful" or not does not make it wrong.

Why would it? Why do you feel the need to say this?

I took your understanding of your original posting to be more of a broad question of the "why", not a specific application of it to your own psyche.

It applies to me because it applies to a community I'm a part of. It applies to me because examining different levels of bdsm will help me understand it at my own level of participation. It applies to me because I had an emotional reaction to it (it frightened me). Also, I just want to understand.

oh yea, one other side note of a comment, I despise the mentality of certain BDSM clique's that the females "rightfull" or "natural" position is submissive.

Um...I'm not sure I'd get so far as to despise that, because it's just absurd. At that point I would firmly say that the person has a mental problem.