Why the 24 hour bdsm?

[new master]

I don't know what that's supposed to make me then, if I'm apparently not "real" bdsm. I'm very surprised to find I'm in such a minority. ..... I guess I'm some kind of independent/submissive hybrid freak!

duktig flicka, please font think anyone here is stating that your relationship is not "real" bdsm, only that we have a different bdsm relationship yours is alot closer to ours than you believe as ypur nex quote proves

Am I the only one who thinks that being naughty and getting a punishment is a turn-on? Is my dom so rare for enjoying it also?.....Do I have to throw away everything that makes my life worth living and kill my own personality before it "counts" as something special?

this is why many subs enter the 24/7 relationship the giving up control IS the turn on and most subs DO enjoy the punishment aspect. as i have said in other posts i dont believe a true dom would ever ask/demand a sub to throw away/kill thier own personality as that would defeat the whole purpose of domination

I was quite frightened by a post I read in another community where a sub talked of how she was in an abusive relationship but she couldn't leave because "master won't release me." It really made me shudder.

that in my opinion IS abuse as with any contract there is always a way to release yourself that sub just needs to realize hers is a phone with 3 little #s "911"

I'd like to make it clear that my boyfriend and I do not do what we do because it turns him on, but because it turns us on. If I really didn't want to do it, I wouldn't, and he'd be very upset if he found that I had done something I didn't want to just for him. He'll push me sometimes into doing something I don't like, but that's because it turns us both on that he does so. If he was trying to make me do things I really didn't want to, I'm quite certain I would kick him out.

now you get the whole 24/7 idea. its not just to turn the dom on its to turn both on so no more sulking ok?