Why the 24 hour bdsm?

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A very intelligently asked and posed question and a issue of some debate between what is sometimes refereed to as the player/soft community and the rest of the scene.

For a generic answer yes some defiantly look down in contempt of non 24/7 people. This would be similar to for example, many vegan's hold contempt for vegetarians. and "hardcore" musical subculture holds contempt for the "posers" of send sub culture (Goth's hate baby bats, gangster rappers hate the pop rappers, punks hate bubble gum punks etc). To other though they simply don't care hey if your not 24/7 no biggie have fun at what you do. Now on to specific, I know BDSM_tour guide is adding his own comments as well so this should be rather complete in its answers

Some specifics:

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If she doesn't like it, why would you do it? How would a person consent to bdsm if they don't enjoy it?

They DO enjoy it, but what they enjoy is beyond the specifics of a single or particular group of activities the joy and the passion for them is the relenting of control on a larger scale. Therefore, when rules are both established and broken punishment is due, and punishment is just that, its not meant to be enjoyed. Why would they consent to that? because its exactly what the want.

Is bdsm really "real" for some people, rather than play and role-playing for the sake of a sexual fetish? .

oh VERY!

Is one person truly considered lesser than the other? If that's the case, how can one separate bdsm from abuse?

The PERSON is not lesser (at least this is my view) look at the differance between 2 people in the military one is of a lesser rank not lesser of a person.

There are particular sects of BDSM (Gorean) where yes strictly on the basis of there gender are a lesser person. For some this is a constant erotic thrill and personally satisfying to be view by a particular person or group of persons in such a way.

Note that I do understand being pushed a little into things I don't really enjoy because that in itself is a turn-on. Sometimes my boyfriend makes me do things I don't like during play, since it turns us both on that he's making me do something I don't want to do.

This is what submission is about you do it cause it turns him on. There are others that strive to live in that state, not the state of just being a turn on for someone else. But knowing that there actions and group of actions are really pleasing to someone and making them very happy. Giving that to someone else makes them in-turn feel more complete and whole as a person. Psychologically speaking this is referred to as "an external locus of control" where as the person bases her self assessment (am I good or bad?) on factors outside herself.

But I'm referring to these punishments I see people writing about which are meant to be truly unpleasant or downright cruel for the submissive, so as to actually condition them not to do something again.

That is exactly what they are doing, and that is exactly what a full time 24/7 submissive wants. They want to be the best and exactly what their owner wants them to be. They fully understand that punishment will be unpleasant at times and its meant as behavior modifier.

Could somebody please help me to try and understand this?
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I'm sure there are plenty of people here MORE then willing and happy to explain and talk with you. You are also welcome to message me on Yahoo my ID is listed.

EDIT: Just to add, another reason this is putting a strain on me is that many people have put forth that bdsm is anti-feminist. I start to get nervous that I'm part of something oppressive.

There are MANY stout feminist especially in the leatherdyke community. What is oppressive about this? Isn't at least to my understanding a BIG part of the movement that women are equal to men both in ability and in rights? They are free to do what they choose? Why is it that a woman cannot CHOOSE to live this way. No one is ever FORCED to be a submissive. Every submissive woman (or man) I have ever met wasn't kidnapped and dragged into the lifestyle kicking and screaming. They ran to it with open arms. Isn't it more anti-feminist to say that a woman CAN'T do this if she wants?