Quote Originally Posted by Finding_Fantasy
Merrioc... I may be mistaken, but it sounds to me that you are saying that a submissive should not even bother looking for a dominant if they are married with children and a career. If this is what you are saying, then I would have to say that it is an unfair statement. I know of plenty submissives who are married with kids who have found a dominant patient and tolerant enough to take on a submissive in his or her situation. That, in itself, is worth searching for.

Some people don't even realize their submissive tendencies until long after they are married with children but that does not mean that they should let their desires and instincts go to rot just because they are married with kids, especially if their spouse is OK with them pursuing that side of themselves.

I feel that it is their right to pursue this side of themselves and to find the Dominant or "One" that will accept them and willingly take any time that the submissive has to give and know that while they are together, that submissive is theirs and only theirs.

But that is only my opinion.
After reading Merrioc's commentary I began to wonder if what I have been doing is fair to my Master. Then you, Finding Fantasy, wrote your piece and it said exactly what I felt. I always time my meetings with my Master when my husband is at work and my children are in school. I always do my best to take nothing from them. Slavelucy also mentioned the many appointments we all have in our lives. Appointments and work are things that we all have to do! At least I do until I win the lottery or something!! True, I would love to spend more time with him or even an overnighter (nope! never done that ), but there have also been times that he has canceled due to his work! It is disappointing when that happens, but we both have come to an understanding that we have lives separate from each other, yet are lucky enough to have found each other for the D/s days that we can step away from this demanding world for just awhile so that I can submit to his every want and need!

To be more honest, I am in an unhappy marriage anyway, one that has been in trouble long before my Master came along. So for me it is at times an escape from a dreary and dull life that I'm not happy with anymore. I also didn't realize that I had submissive tendencies until about three years ago, which also goes along with what FF said.

I'm truly sorry that your subs were not loyal to you Sir, but please don't group all of us that are submissive, married and with Masters outside of the relationship in the same boat! It just ain't so!!