Quote Originally Posted by robart View Post
At first I thougt:
What about deviding it. Searching a dominant for the submissive needs in you, with the consence of your partner. Since BDSM doesn't really need to involve the classical penis-in-vagina-sex, it might be quite acceptable for him. Perhaps he would even come to like horny an sex-depraved of you when you come to him after a session of pain.

On an other thread (or board?) I once read the tip to try a threesome with a domina. You can be submissive, and he won't get jealousy or homophoby in his way. Perhaps he even dreamed of "doing it with two women".

Since you stated that you are only submissive to _him_, it might be a little more complicated.
Actually, the domina idea has been running through my mind. Even like a little "how to" session if he would be willing. There's a positive sex place in Seattle I plan to join when/if we move there and I'm hoping he will join with me. That way he can expand his horrizons with me and feel perhaps a little liberation in the mean time! I think it is just inexperience on his part mixed with an unwillingness to "hurt" me. The out of bedroom stuff seems a little confusing to him, but perhaps with all of these suggestions I can see what works.

I just don't want to lose him, but I understand that as a possibility.