PopeRozen,

I think that the point of the orignal post was that you have others aspects in your life that "dominante" you such as your work, your kids, and your marriage aside from the BDSM one, not having multiple BDSM partners.

That being said, living BDSM 24/7 with children, while not easy, is not impossible. You just need to work out seemingly "harmless" phrases for when you are in front of your children. Since there is much more to BDSM than simply caning and other physical elements there is other things, such as being respectful, holding yourself a certain way, wearing or saying a certain thing while you are in front of your children, thus the dominant still has control despite the presence of children. And, if the submissive has messed up, then punishment can be reserved for a more appropriate time.