You know, you have a point.
I hadn't thought of all that before. Well, maybe I did, but not in as clear and concise a way as you just laid out.
I posted a thread in the personals here on the Library; my hubby and I were looking for another couple or a Domme to whom I could go every one in a while when my desire to submit and be used got strong. I think I specified in the ad that it wouldn't be a regular thing, due to hubby's work schedule, the fatc that I don't drive, and the fact that we have two toddlers...but I hadn't thought of how unfair that might be to the Domme/Dominant/couple.
Yes, I already have a lot of Masters; my boys, first and foremost; they need me like no one else does. Then there's hubby, who gets put third down on the list; not really fair to him, but he understands because they're his kids too. And then there's my writing. I started writing last August as a relief from the boredom of staying home with the children all day long...but when I discovered that people liked it and actually considered me a good writer, I got more into it. Now I actually have an informal fan base, and am looking to get published hopefully in the near future.I entered my first writing contest last Nov, and to my surprise won third over some other more experienced 'Net writers. So I kept at it. Now it's more like a hobby/obsession/mental illness.
Anyway, the point I'm trying to get at is that I think I really should sit down and consider whether I need another responsibility to yet another person in my life. My kids, my hubby, my fans, and now...another Master/Mistress? Even if it's only a couple days a month? I do have to think about it.
Thank you for pointing that out.