Pretty heavy stuff! I'm not sure where to start with a reply. I'd love to know what happened to you that precipitated that post.

HHHmmm...

For me personally, I have no problem separating love and sex. Sex is always better when you're in love...but by no means a prerequisit. I guess it depends on whether or not your into it as a lifestyle...or for fun. In a lifestyle arrangement, I can see where it would be a problem.

I'm not married but was for 11 years (with kid) . I had no problem giving my wife a kiss on the cheek and telling her to "have fun" when she wanted to go have sex with someone else. And she did...a lot. Fucking just for the sake of fucking, bdsm oriented or otherwise, was just recreation...like going to a movie or something. I'd like to hear more about what made you feel compelled to post that before I give a full answer