I agree with bits and pieces of what several people have said here. To me, the jaw-dropping thing was reading: "they are happy with a blowjob each morning and night, but that's about as far as they want."

The last time I could survive two orgasms a day was around my 28th birthday, and Decadence is saying that two isn't enough!

Now, granted, SHE isn't the one who's having the pair of orgasms, but I really think that if she's expecting in-and-out sex from a guy who's already getting two blow jobs a day, she needs a reality check.

As Canopus says, though, part of the problem may be laziness on the part of her Dom(s). Did it ever occur to him (them) to forgo their twice-a-day blowjob, so that he'd be capable of engaging in some in-and-out?

Perhaps Decadence needs to rethink her drink. The people who suggested improved communications to prevent this situation fron re-arising are being quite reasonable, but Decadence says that she DID discuss her sexual needs (the implication being 'discussed at length') with these "dream Doms", and it didn't help!

MrJerseyGuy and I have debated with BDSM_TourGuide in another thread about the differences in approach between "lifestylers"(24/7) and "enthusiasts". Many lifestylers don't feel that sex is essential to a BDSM relationship, while Mr Guy, woodsman'sgame and I (enthusiasts all) believe that, without sex, there's not a lot of point to continuing the relationship. Maybe Decadence needs to consider trying an enthusiast for a change, and give the lifestylers a rest?

As an aside, it's too bad Decadence never posted again. I wonder how it turned out?