Yeah, i think what MrJG (please correct me if i'm wrong Sir!) could have been referring to was trust
Jep, realized that. On the other hand, vanillas tend to have easier ways than such meetings.

Lots a ppl will probably disagree here but I don't see anything wrong with a sub teaching an inexperienced Dom.
A sub taught dom... interesting idea.
I once read that the best doms are the once who were subs them selfs, but a sub-taught dom could get rather good too... *g*
On the other hand, many vanilla&sub relationships end up that way, so a sub-taugt dom can't be such a rarity.

our society does value "dominant" traits much more than submissive ones
Hm, that's a point of view, or rather - a point of society. Living several thousand kilometers away from you, both may differ.


As for your actual question, i confess i am a little unclear as to what it actually is
Well, to a friend I formulated it that way: Imagine I had her perfectly bound up on the bed - and wouldn't know where to lick her..


(If you want to know: My friend told me that she didn't realize I was into SM, which surprised me. Then she explained to me in exact detail how to lick pussy...)

(by the way: what is the political correct translation for "licking pussy"? "licking vagina"?? )