Look in the mirror and repeat after me:

"I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me!"
-Stuart Smalley



If you're going to fret about it, counseling (probably) wouldn't hurt. Personally speaking, I think that you come across as remarkably sane for all that you've gone through. Perhaps your underlying submissive nature helped you survive more mentally intact than you might have otherwise. It could very well have been a hidden blessing.