I was interested in BDSM when I was thin. I don't think one's core sexuality changes as their appearance changes. If so, then it would stand to reason that all of the women in American society would turn more and more to each other for comfort as they age, while their just-as-rapidly aging male partners turn to younger and younger women. (Not ALL men act that way of course, but I'm just using that as an example).

Two years ago, after a breakup, I rapidly gained a lot of weight. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that I gained the weight as a subconscious means of avoiding being hurt by a man again. "If no man wants me, then no man can hurt me." Blah blah.

I have learned a lot with my new extra 70 pounds. A FEW people at my workplace treat me as if I'm less intelligent, less professional, and less worthy of respect. I can't help but wonder how bankrupt of virtue these husks of humanity are, and how they can stand themselves. I mean, someone has to have absolutely NOTHING going for them if: 1) they NEED to feel superior to others, and 2) the only way they can do that is to weigh less than someone. Pathetic!

That's not to say that I hold it against anyone for not being attracted to me now that I'm not thin. Physical appearance does count. Some people are attracted to people of different skin tones, hair color, height, whatever. You can't rewrite your instincts of who you are physically attracted to, just to be more "politically correct". But there is never an excuse for thinking you are superior to someone just based on how you look. You can be courteous and human to someone without having to sleep with them!

At the end of the day, here is what I think: If being thin attracts people like "Player", then I'd rather be fat for life!