Why are so many BDSM girls fat and ugly??

[Pandora's Box]

Its amazing how defensive people have become because of this thread. Any dim wit can see that the majority of women that are into BDSM are fat or over weight. Its is purely a fact and matter of observation....to think other wise is to deny the truth.

How many seriously attractive women with good bodies are into BDSM?????
Well the answer is not many. The reason is that the attractive women are capable of enjoying a normal sex life because they get attention from the opposite sex.

Fat and unattractive women do not get attention and as a result have to resort to other "avenues" to get the same attention ie - BDSM.

I'm sure I'll have people shoot me down for saying this.............but before you start typing.......think about it............it does make a lot of sense

I know he's gone... and I've studiously avoided this topic until now... but I feel I must address something. Especially as one of those women that have seen both ends of the weight spectrum scale.

My weight really is not attached to any of my proclivities. In "vanilla" affairs and relationships, only one man has given me an orgasm during sex. I've had fantasies and "leanings" long before I was ever aware of weight.

It just amazes me how many people equate thin with success in relationships/life. Hell I bought into that claptrap for years. Made me miserable when I was thin and made me miserable when I was fat.

That attitude is so amazingly unhealthy for our emotional selves it is unreal. Nor is it easy to combat as long as idiots such as this fellow are around. It's hard enough to deal with the personal challenges of facing the BDSM music without adding in some trumped up notion of another "flaw".

Overweight has nothing to do with BDSM. Being overweight can cause emotional issues which may in turn make a person feel like less than they are. And yes some of those women might seek out BDSM. But dollars to donuts, these women felt the bdsm stirrings long before they ever knew anything about the social pressures of being fat.

I honestly can't say if I know if there are more overweight women than skinny in the bdsm scene. However if there are, it might very well be because the women that are overweight have been flouting "convention" and societal standards for so long, it may have given them additional personal strength to go after BDSM. Once you've thumbed your nose at what society says on such a personal matter, it gets easier and easier to do it with other personal matters.

If there is any one thing that has bearing to my interest in BDSM it would be the emotional abandonment by my father. But then if you were to ask me, I would also contribute my heavier weights over the years to that too.

I get very tired of people like this. People that think in 2 dimensional terms. He might just as well have said that all dominants are insecure control freaks who never got hugged by their mothers.

BDSM is complicated enough. It's not like we need to add in stereotyping and high school psychology because someone can't wrap their mind around human complexity.

"Deny the truth" .... Grrrrr.... Pardon me, but he's an ass.

*Steps off soapbox*