Part 2



Pictures- In the beginning I never ask what a sub looks like, her measurements, sometimes not even her age. I tell her from the beginning I am more concerned what is in her head then what she looks like. If you need a picture ask for a head shot, then give her one of you. Tell her when you are ready for more revealing pictures of her, you will ask her for them. Good to put this in the back of her mind, and extend the control aura. I do send her pictures of things I wish her to know about. I sent my current trainee one of a woman with a leather sleeve on her arms. She asked me what it was from the checklist, and it was easier to send her a pic than try to verbally explain it.

Punishments- Lots of variations on this. Some like to do it some don’t. I generally will not do punishments for awhile, if at all on-line. I tell her we will when I decide she needs it. The problem is that you can spank her like you do in r/l. Spanking or clamping your nipples yourself is not the same, and can be dangerous since she might not know when to stop. So keep punishments to something you can supervise and control, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER (got my drift) use time with you (or away from you) as a punishment. You need to be in contact with her all the time to control and train her. A Dom who says he is punishing a sub by not seeing her or talking to her, or answering her email is at best a coward, and worst an abuser. Also, don’t put her in a situation where no matter what she does she will fail and have to be punished. A punishment usually means she has done something incorrectly, which also means you have failed to get her to do it right. So if you wish to punish for that then punish yourself. One of the most severe punishments I can give a submissive is to tell her that I am not going to tell her what I wish to do, she can decide on her own. A true submissive will really, really hate this. You have taken controlling her away, and she will be despondent. Only do this to make a point. Also, if you do punish make sure she knows why and what to do to avoid it in the future.

When to go to real life: When you are ready, and You decide when that is. If distance is a problem then you may not have to worry she wishes this before you are ready. I told my current submissive that we will meet someday. She was puzzled by this because we are a distance away, and our lives are complicated. But I told her some day we will meet, whether it is just to talk or hug, or more. But when I feel it is right it will happen. Talk with her and you decide.
Lastly: Remember this relationship is all about control. Establishing your control over her, but she needs to give it to you. Go slow and earn each others’ trust. I talk a lot about how D/s is a partnership and how we both need to give and get things for us to be satisfied. I i\keep talking about this all the time. Do little things to show her how she giving you control can be such a turn-on and so rewarding for her. I almost always ask the sub if she is shaven (pubic in and around her vaginal area). If she is not I always request she do this, and maintain it till I tell her otherwise. This will be a visible sign of your control of her every time she dresses, bathes or looks in any mirror. Also, you can extend control of her into her everyday life. This is usually very exciting for her. An easy thing is to tell her tomorrow at work she is to dress normally, but after lunch to go to the ladies room and remove her panties, put them in her purse and not wear any till the next morning. Now every time she moves, sits down or even walks she will feel your control of her. (obviously I ask if she is having her period, and do not do it on those days). Always ask if she can do this, almost 99% of the time she is turned on to do this for You.
Ok, and that is just the tip of the ice berg. Feel free to reply her or a PM if you wish more info. I would love to begin a correspondence with a Dom that is training a new sub at the same time as I am to see if we can learn from each other. Good luck


SirW