kittenfemme, it is true, each has their personal preference in doing most anything (BDSM related or not) and right and wrong is often relative. Also, I meant no disrespect towards Mistresses and Dommes by my answer. I simply feel (and others may or may not disagree) that the Dom(me), Master/Mistress should be involved in the choosing of a long term collar and it should be comfortable to them and suit their needs as well as yours. Most subs/slaves (I know, even for myself, it is tempting) will be tempted to get something "pretty" rather than something that will last through long term use and I was just simply suggesting some things they may wish to think about in choosing a collar. It CAN be pretty AND durable.