I don't know where you are looking but in real life I have met girls of ALL types into BDSM. For instance, if you are looking at Vogue and thinking that most women are a size 0 and that is a reflection of what is a reality in our society you are going to be sadly mistaken because most girls aren't gorgeous or a size 0. And, I think, you are sadly mistaken here. Have you ever gone to a BDSM or PE club? I think you would be pleasantly surprized that many of the women there are NOT fat and ugly. That would be like saying all Doms are fat old guys... yes some are... especially over the internet... but if you go out into the "real world" you will find that BDSMers come in ALL shapes and sizes.