Tired of it, just sick and tired of it all

[ValKyrie]

I remember feeling much the same way not so long ago.

Take care of you.

[Garmonbozia]

PB, I can assure you that many of us, who are searching, feel the same way. There just seem to be so many people out there who really have no idea what they are doing when they write that they are "submissive" (obviously this is from a Dom's point of view). Since beginning my search on the net, and it only really began a few months ago, I have met a few girls and all have misrepresented themselves horrendously with their online profiles and chats.

This is not only very frustrating but it also begins to turn you off the idea of ever finding someone who is genuine. I do not buy the idea that you find the one for you when you aren't looking. Most people are looking all the time! There is no way I am going to sit back and cruise along in life and hope the sub I am looking for bumps into me.

I honestly don't know what to do about using the net to search for a submissive. I thought it would be an ideal place to go, after all you would start by already knowing they are interested in bdsm and you would know many of their likes and dislikes, saving you a hell of a lot of time testing the waters and being afraid of sending someone running for the hills at the first mention of some fetish or other. But from my point of view the girls who I have contacted are either:

rude and obviously not submissive - making demand after demand of you before they will deign to reply in a civil manner, if ever.

tourists - being tittilated by being tied up with scarves does not mean you are submissive

complete liars - luckily you can spot these fairly early on but still the winnowing process becomes ever harder simply by their presence

misguided/misreprented - I recently met a girl who stated quite clearly in her profile she was looking for a 24/7 relationship, which is what I am searching for. In subsequent online chats she kept up the masquerade, sounding extremely sweet, obedient and enthusiastic. Yet upon meeting I find she is interested in someone who likes bondage but she doesn't want to be "ordered around". She basically liked bondage but that was it. Even when she was tied up she was still attempting to issue orders. I told her to change her profile to say she liked bondage but was not submissive but it still remains unchanged ready to infuriate further Doms.

These have been my personal experiences and I will persevere for a little while longer but I do fear that the online avenue produces nothing but frustration and anger in those who are indeed looking for a serious relationship.

Jason

[vinsint]

You sound like I did some time ago.

People Lie. People use. People get bored easily.

Not all people. But you can only get lied to, used, and tossed aside so many times till you just had enough, and no longer have the strength to put your chips back out on the table.

I hope you're not at the end of your rope. If you are, then sorry you are, and hold on tight before you do fall too far.