As I over analyze...(which I do a lot) I guess I can see both perspectives on this. Noone wants an ex-lover thrown in their face all the time. At the same time, if you are secure in your relationship with your partner...and yes I said partner, not sub, because I'm figuring that this can work both ways, than jealousy should rarely be an issue. I'm assuming jealousy would be the reason for such contact being a problem.

I have the good fortune of being with a great (sexually submissive) girl that I know I don't ever have worry about in the area of "cheating". We were best friends for years before dating and we are very familiar with each others morals in that respect. Its the first relationship I've ever had where I am 100% confident in that area. It's a nice feeling.

In response to the thread...no, I wouldn't have a problem with her having contact with any previous lovers because I trust her implicitly. In my prior relationships I probably would have.

My opinion...in the final analysis it depends on the quality of your relationship. But as I get older I tend to think that if I didn't trust my partner completely, I wouldn't want to be in that relationship anyway.