Welcome to the board JackBird. I like the way you think hope to hear more from you.

People, usually have this tendency to like presenting themselves as and expert on any subject at hand. Truth is ones actions speak much louder than words – and most of those that try to put someone down do that just so that they could feel being bigger.

Alalone46 – you have pretty good idea what you are – and as long as you recognize you still have things to learn you are on the right path. Doubtless it is easier to learn from a “patron” , mentor of a sort – but that is not an easy thing to find. I found that more I talk to people about my fantasies, preferences and beliefs – better I know myself. So… reading (and not just fantasy stories but more serious material) and talking to the people that share interest is just swell way of learning.