I am pretty sure that I am in for the "long haul" as well tyme. I have had girls before who are can act very submissive and immerse themselves in it for sexual purposes (ie. enjoy bondage and the submissive aspects of it) but then are not submissive in any way outside of the bedroom, or only on weekends. Of course this isn't a negative thing. It's just not what I am looking for. I am pretty particular in what I want and really my intial inquiry was caused by the fact that these kinds of submissives are the only ones I seem to be able to meet. I wanted to know, and hear, of first hand experience, of people finding a 24/7 partner whether they be dom or sub.

I most definitely want a sub who is intelligent and who has opinions of her own (the "i don't know, whatever you want" response gets very old very quickly) and my aspiration for her will be for her to be the best that she can be at everything she does. I would never forbid my sub a career or education or anything that would help her better herself, I would actually do the opposite and encourage that.

I know there are some people out there who enjoy degradation, both in giving and receiving, but it is something that I really find a bit odd in a relationship. I would treasure my sub and lavish attention and affection on her. I take extremely good care of all my possessions and she would be the most valuable of all.

I am also not a person who will rush into anything, and want to get to know my submissive as a person first. After all why would I want to spend so much time with someone I wasn't particularly interested in as a person, no matter how submissive they are. I don't quite understand why some people expect you to be dominant from first contact (or submissive for that matter - when I meet someone for the first time being called Sir is, for me, quite out of place). At that point we are simply two people, not Dom and sub. That part of the relationship will come later. It is the same for some submissives I ahve spoken to who have experiences where they meet a Dom who believes he has total control from the moment he sets eyes on them. If someone can understand that could they please explain it to me.

This is beginning to sound a bit like a personal but I guess I am just trying to explain why I started this thread and am grateful for the response, both from those successful in their search and from those like me who are still searching.

Jason