Well, seems to me, that if she reads this Forum daily, as well as you reading it, that she is somewhat interested in the lifestyle. Perhaps you could ask her to start posting in here, instead of just reading, and that would satisfy her hidden intent, as well as your wanting to get "inside" her (the writing assignment you mentioned) thoughts and feelings. As anxious as you seem to be, you must wait for her to feel the same, should you wish to pursue this further with her.
(Although, nothing wrong with a nudge, here and there )