You may have something there. On Sat I was at a craft fair that was exclusively for BDSMers and was thinking about how the atmosphere in the room was so friendly and accepting, even to total strangers--especially since it was an open event and not a munch or a play party at all.

Another thing... that IMHO goes along with this, is that people in the scene tend to be comfortable with their appearance--and I think that makes them even more attractive. You walk into a room like that and see what could be considered large-sized women dressed in sexy, revealing tops and sporting a beautiful smile to match.

My partner and I are both considered "acceptable" weight for our height, but I definitely look underweight--and have always been a little conscious of my skinny arms. I would _definitely_ say that we were in the minority in that room, but once again--it is an accepting crowd, who would no more stare at us than expect that kind of behaviour in return.

THAT, right there...is beauty.


BTW: this thread may have been started by a moron, and looked a little like bickering from time to time, but I read the whole thing and appreciated how much it made me think... about many, many issues. Thank you all.