Very well done Tourguide! However I would like to add that there are those of us that straddle the proverbial fence.

I think there are many lines that blur for me in this area. Fortunately for me, Canopus can see my needs, as I know of his and has found ways to adapt my slave needs into my submissive self... or is it my submissive needs into my slave self... LOL.

There are still places in my life where I must be in control of things... my children, job, household matters (when Canopus is not available). Yet on the other hand, there are many places that I can give up total control... my attire, attitude, sex, purchases, needs, etc.

The point is we believe in defining our relationship for ourselves. As I have stated in another thread, the titles have no bearing on us. What matters is that the relationship is what we want it to be or need it to be, and it could change daily and often does. We work on it every single day.

Call me or put whatever title on me that you would like, but when I am at home, with him, all I am is his! And that is what makes us happy and healthy.

Master's tehya