Quote Originally Posted by BDSM_Tourguide
And no, it's not a lack of commitment. You can commit yourself to whatever you feel the most comfortable. If you just want to be a bedroom submissive, then fine, there are plenty of people that only look for that sort of thing. If you want to give everything up and become an owned object, then you can do that, too, and there will be a person for you. The same applies for any level in-between as well. You have to consent to the rules and you are in a relationship; whether there's a BDSM twist to it or not, what you will have when you find what works for you is a relationship.
Firstly, thank you for your answer!

And yes, that's my perception of it too. But I have heard quite some people talking of it that way and read quite some stories that interpretet it that way. That kinda scared me
As does quite a lot, since I'm a chicken

thanks,

Laila