Jason,

I'm not in a 24/7 relationship, but I am a submissive, single, I'm in 40s (might be one drawback for some men), not bad looking, and I can tell you this, I've been interested in living a submissive lifestyle 24/7 but it's very hard for me to find the right person also. I won't hesitate to tell you there have been, are presently, and will be plenty of Doms and Masters who say they are more interested, but when a man is hasty about saying I'm the sub he wants, that's a signal to me that he's NOT the Dom I want.

If a man doesn't take the time to get to know me, and allow me to know him, both of us would be doing the other an injustice to jump into something as serious as a D/s relationship 24/7.

In my opinion, which is all that matters to me because it's ABOUT me, a true submissive gives her whole heart to her Dom. I'm smart enough to know that the depth of pain would be equal to the willingness I give myself to a man, which means I could be very hurt emotionally.

Also, I care enough about the feelings and lives of other people not to commit myself to a man just to turn around and leave him.

I'm willing to wait for the right Dom and not have one at all, than to risk hurting someone else or be used simply and only for the pleasure of a man, just so I can be a D/s relationship 24/7.

But, of course, this is the way I feel about it. I'm an all-or-nothing woman. Some women are not and are willing to take the risk.

I may be more willing to do take that risk if I didn't care about the feelings of another person (my Dom) or if I had not been in an abusive relationship for 20 years already.

Obviously, I'm looking for freedom. Not confirmation that I was the worthless person my xh tried to convince me I was. I know better now, and I won't allow anyone or anything to change that.

With love and sincerity,
tyme