Quote Originally Posted by Laila
I am quite proud about the stuff I accomplish outside the bedroom, that I'm inteligent and will study and have a good payed fullfilling job. Or that I have an opinion that I would never let anyone forbid me.

Is that a lack of commitment?

Who ever said you can't be a submissive and have a career? I know plenty of people that do both, and they are more than just submissive in the bedroom, too.

Who said you are not allowed an opinion? Some of the submissive I know are very opinionated, sometimes to the point of insolence. Submissive does not mean doormat. Anyone can be submissive and still have a life outside of their DS commitment. Anyone that tells you otherwise doesn't know what they're talking about.

And no, it's not a lack of commitment. You can commit yourself to whatever you feel the most comfortable. If you just want to be a bedroom submissive, then fine, there are plenty of people that only look for that sort of thing. If you want to give everything up and become an owned object, then you can do that, too, and there will be a person for you. The same applies for any level in-between as well. You have to consent to the rules and you are in a relationship; whether there's a BDSM twist to it or not, what you will have when you find what works for you is a relationship.