The Cyber-Age is Upon Us

[althea]

I read your comment with interest, since I am a newbie to this lifestyle.
And exactly the "easy access", "anonymity" and "not real" aspect helped me to get involved here. But I am very well aware that this is not the "real thing". I am perfectly aware, that a real spanking hurts a lot more, than the cyber one. ;-)

I even have a BDSM scene in my town but I want to clarify my own motives further before I go "public", since I have to consider a "real life relationship" as well.

So I see the web a great opportunity to find out more about me, before I make some inrevokable decisions in my life. For this I am grateful for this forum, but I share your concerns about some, especially very young people, not realizing the difference between "real" and "web".

Just my 2 cents
Althea

[ValKyrie]

Althea, I found my way into real time BDSM by beginning on sites much like this one.

If not for these opportunities to explore, safely, I would probably still be meandering from nilla guy to nilla guy, wondering what was wrong with me that a relationship just wouldn't work! I now know, there is nothing wrong with me. In fact, there is a whole like RIGHT about me!

*wicked grin*

Enjoy!

[Mistressmichiko]

True.... cybering is not the "real thing". However, for all those who live in places that neither have a bdsm scene nor are friendly or tolerant towards kink, it opens additional perspectives. I agree that there are not a lot of good chatrooms - yahoo and msn chats in particular are often frankly annoying... I don' t care to bother with paysites, nor with the people found in many places who seem to believe that the only bdsm position for women is being a sub. No pun intended, I love and enjoy the subs among my friends, but I choose to top.

Cyber bdsm means I can go beyond the limits of the society I happen to live in - where being bisexual is bad enough, enjoying bdsm makes me a complete deviant. I' m sure many face similar problems. Among my chatfriends and playmates there are several happily married to a vanilla partner - cybering is their chance to find an outlet for their needs without risking their relationship after all efforts to "convert" their partner to bdsm have been futile. And yes, there are the wonderful rare cases of couples finding each other over thousands of miles and continents. I admit these happy ends of cyber-relationships are the exceptions rather than the rules, but I have seen them happen.

Michiko