Quote Originally Posted by sugeneg
So to bring it back on track, hopefully, how long did it take everyone to find their partner? Were you looking for a long time or did they just drop from the sky?

Jason
Thank you, Jason for explaining your choice of terms. Too often I have seen battle lines drawn concerning who is "real" and who is not.

It took me three years to find my partner.
I had been looking for a Dominant for part of that time and not searching for anything more than companionship for part of that time.

My sub fell into my lap, all vanilla coated.
We cliqued almost immediately and before too long, his fantasies started to reveal themselves to me. I had been topping women for a while and we decided we could experiment with some activities. Then, this turned into that and I realized why I could never find the Dominant I wanted. I was a Dominant in submissive clothing and finally found not only my partner, but peace.

Prior to these three years, I was involved throughout my adult life with a man who not only was vanilla, but was uncaring, ego centric and controlling, bordering on abusive. To that end, I must say, I have searched my sub for all my life and happy to have found him.

I, too, live an area devoid of any BDSM social scene. We are trying to create more of a scene now, but there are political obstacles. However, I can empathize with your frustration on many levels.

I am curious though. There is a thread on another forum I frequent wherein and aussie is expressing the same concerns. What is it with the land down under? Are they conservative or hiding?

Take care and best wishes,

Valkyrie