Ah, Sugeneg, I feel for you in your search, as I AM that submissive, but had been unable all my life to find the "true" Dom!
As far as that "settling" theme the others sort of mentioned, in order to at least get something started, and build from there, it's what happened to me.
I married a man 6 years ago, (who I thought had potential!), but wasn't comfortable? confident? ready? to divulge my true intent until a few months ago. Granted it's not perfect between us, but we are learning together, and growing together in BDSM, and eventually, I'm confident we can built it into whatever we desire over time.

The point is, this kind of relationship seems to be one that grows into what you want, but you need to feel out a few "potentials" first.

Keep trying, dude, it's out there!!!!