Hi, i am new to BDSM and sub lifestyle...so new i start my training Friday, but have spent months reading and exploring a lot.

Write4jetc...you wrote

I think there may be a lot of slaves who are so submissive that they need someone to take over every aspect of their lives. Some of them seem to feel that any attention is better than none. They may be the product of abuse, incest, any number of things. Much as I'd like to, I can't get help to everyone I think needs it, so they will continue to take what they get. However, it is also possible that they don't see any way out, and are not strong enough to walk away. There are lots of places to find help, if they want it.


and i think it could very well be true, i grew up in very abusive situations....along with rape and incest included. I took a break from like for 6 years and went into therapy, and this is how i find myself now. More open minded....looking for domination, actually desiring it so strongly i couldnt deny it. I know the difference now, but instead of feeling fear, it is replaced by excitement...why? I think because in uncontroled situations and cold and uncaring situations....many of us survivied and are a lot stronger for it, and now, it is in a controled situation with trust, love and many more...it is what we have known, and how we have grown up to be, it is our life as we know how to live it.

just one opinion and some of what and why i desire this. I am still questioning myself and searching within me for answers. Maybe i will know someday, maybe not