Never punish/discipline out of anger. Everyone is human, including submissives. And as humans, they are prone to making mistakes. Mistakes in actions and of judgment. So do Dominants. Punishment/discipline in anger is nothing short of abuse. If You’re angry, delay the punishment/ discipline. Set a time for later, when You’re clear, level headed and in control of Yourself and Your emotions. Always punish/discipline for the sole purpose of achieving personal and lifestyle growth for Your submissive. That is to say that punishment/discipline is not retribution for You as a Dominant. It is not Your pound of flesh. It is a lesson, a reminder, something to help Your submissive learn how to achieve their objective of enhancing their submission. Remember, they need Your help and guidance to achieve personal and lifestyle growth. Part of Your growth as a Dominant is to learn the self control that ensures Your punishment/discipline has a legitimate and noble purpose. “Getting even” is neither.
Y/you may have noticed that I have been referring to “punishment/ discipline”, rather than the more commonly used term of simply “punishment”. That’s because of the connotations attached to the term punishment, which is most frequently thought of as being physical in nature. A paddling, the strap, etc. I make a distinction between physical punishment and discipline, which would be non-physical in nature. An assignment, loss of privileges, or some other activity that teaches, creates self-control and promotes personal and lifestyle growth.