I'm pretty much in the similiar situation as Jebus, at first, honestly, it will feel a little awkward, I've been doing a little better with myself in letting go and just taking the moment as it comes lately but the it all comes with experiance. Just do stuff you've wanted to do or thought of doing, and things she's suggested. I've found a lot of great ideas throughout these forums.

Punishment is a hard one for me as well, mostly because I am not inventive as well, but definatly as said before, encourage her to encourage you to punish her, have her give you suggestions. Communication is the key.

Good luck man!