The PM options you requested are not easily available. I know it would be nice if these options were added in the "user CP Options".

I stick with vBulletin is not only because I paid for it, but also the support has always been very good. I think that's the biggest difference between commercial and open source software. And I would like to keep upgrading this forum because someday the options you requested may appear, who knows. People are asking all kinds of features which is impossible for me to do them myself. So I partially rely on vBulletin upgrade to fullfil some of the requests. I wanted to upgrade to vB3 earlier. But it had been in pre-release state for quite a while. So when it eventually reached final release, it's already quite different from version 2.

I know people miss the old look and layout. But fear not. New look also means new functionality and improvement. So just exploring.