Originally posted by write4jetc
we were wondering what everyone's definition of submissive is. Someone said the other day that dom/sub is not about sex. Sorry, for us it is!
For us, it can be. Ouor scenes are not always scenes and they don't always involve sex. Sometimes, they just involve her fetching me a cup of coffee. I live with a coffee-muggle, so she never wants any. They might also involve her being tied down and blindfolded with massage oil all over her body and then having copious amounts of hot wax poured over her back and thighs. Usually, these sorts of things don't involve sex, just good, old-fashioned serving and torture.

Sylvie says for us, the definition of submissive is that if we disagree about anything, I win. (that's her short definition).

However, we want to know what you understand the term to mean, as it applies to you.

As a dom, what to you expect from your sub?
I expect her trust and her compliance. I expect her to do what I ask without complaint, but if she has a problem with what I am asking of her, then I expect her to notify me immediately so we may discuss it. Other than that, I don't guess I have a whole lot of expectations.

As a sub, what do you accept from your dom?

We bet there will be lots of variation in the definitions!!

Sylvie was going to ask this herself, but she can't get on-line tonight, her laptop ISP seems to be having a problem. That's why it's so quiet ....
There probably will be lots of variations. Some people are a lot stricter and rule-intensive than we are. I guess we could be, but its just not what we want from our lives right now. We have enough on our plate without having to worry about every little detail of our BDSM life, too.