What? I'm confused again... :/

This is too much for me to fight against. Can someone back me up or something?

Actually, becdause I can't sleep anyways I'm going to justify myself. I'm going to go backwards, because I like going backwards. Starting with the last post.

bbwolf:
Acting like a typical adolscent braging about how cool she is by lowering folks around her. That´s real cheap.
No. No. No. No. I'm not sure where you got that impression, rationally, but I'll reply to more specific ideas later on. I think I may have been misconstrued?

I mean, what should I think about anybody who, no regard how subtle, offers the possibility of sex fer raising the hitquote of her web-site?
Ellaorate? Offering sex? What?

SubShemaleBitch:

One of G42's terms were the same to me as a racial slur would be perceived a person of color. I don't think that is appropriate. I know too well though that transgender people are the last in line to get support from others when it comes to hate speech. So I don't expect it. Someone acting big and brave behind a keyboard neither impresses me or hurts my feelings. But I will always try to answer hateful words. It's not about about my feelings. It's abound bigotry towards transpeople. I'd be confronting G42 had it been a slur against gay men or a person of color.

Arrrgh. No!

I'm kind of confused about where to start on this one. it's just so wrong. Point form time it is, then:

  • One of my strongest interests is sexuality and how it is perceived and moulded by our cultures and others. I'm quite "leftist" when it comes to sex, and more liberal then virtually anyone I know. You can be sure of one thing, I speak not out of ignorance. I've done reading, I've discussed with others and I've done thinking. I am quite reasonably aware of the issues and respect your decisions. What I don't appreciate is hiding behind your gender and making it look like I'm attacking you out of ignorance.
  • Regarding "buddy", specifically. I've been known to use the word against men and women. Why would I not use it for someone who's gender preffrence is uncertain? Do you preffer to be a him or a her? Or perhaps youpreffer the androgenous "zir"? Assuming I'm making a jab at your gender is fairly typical of minority groups, which I understand, to the extent that a white suburban girl can, intellĺctually although perhaps not emotionally.
  • On a personal note, I've been questioning my own biological gender lately. i've never felt aprticularily comfortable as a girl and now that I understand different lifestyles choise i could make, I'm considering many different ones. I doubt I would go so far as to have surgury or even hormone therepy, but if I manage to find an outfit that can make me look convincingly male, I would like to try that out. of course it would take practice to lower my voice and adjust my gate and posture etc, but if I could do it, I might be happier. The problem is that because of the double standards in out society regarding which gender may wear what kinds of clothes, it's difficult to go woman -> boy, because really I look more like a butch girl then anything else. but, I digress. The point was that i am certainly neither biggoted in this area, nor hating you because of it.
  • Another thing about "buddy" is that I've certainly never heard it as anything other then a generally, mildly aggressive word you use when challenging. I don't know where you are, I don't know who you're around, but I've never thought it associated TG/TV etc. I know it's supposed to be used against men, so I use it against women, because I like genderbendy things that people don't expect.
  • And FYI I'm just as bitchy and upfront in real life. Louder, too.


SubShemaleBitch:

You didn't mask your hostility towards me very well in your first reply.
Note: There was no hostility. Ellaborations to follow.

I found your need to throw in "though I don't really read them" to be dismissive. So I didn't understand why you thus responded.
What I *meant* by that was that I'm not claiming it to be a really good site. i'm just saying that I come accross it over and over again when looking for litporn and *maybe* it *might* be of interest to you, but since I know not your fantasies, let alone details of the community you come from, I couldn't be sure. Also, I didn't read because frankly, that's not the kind of stuff that turns me on. Doesn't doing any harm, but it's not me, you know? I'm sure there's are lots of things that wouldn't really get you going.

I really don't see what the harm was in contributing the link *in case* you liked it. I certainly didn't expect this. If it was no good, I figured you'd say, "no, thanks. that site sucks ass." or something a bit more elloquent but with the same meaning. No harm, right? But potential good.

I'm not however going to join you in childish name calling and accusations to make myself feel better.

I am that which I claim to be. A male to female transsexual, who lives full-time in the world this way. I've had enough abusive name-calling in the real world. I don't requite abuse there, nor will I do so on an internet forum.
I'm just going to use this as a bit of support for my earlier point about how minority groups tend to victimize themselves, wether rightly or wrongly. You're dragging in your sexuality, which, as I've said before has ***nothing to do*** with anything I say to you that isn't on that topic. I'm not subtly disrespecting you based on you gender. geeze. Stop it because it's not productive.

(Oh, and coming up is a cincher post...)

SubShemaleBitch:

whatever g42. It's the same tired light pulp full of "magical" nc transformations.
Oh gee. I sure am sorry for not knowing your prefrences.

Seriously.

A lot of people like that sort of thing. I don't dig it much myself, personally. But if you look at the volume of stories on a site like mcstories.com, you can see that there is a large audience for that sort of thing on the Net. As above, *no harm in trying*. Right?

Stick to giving advise on what you know about. ok?
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and please don't respond to anything I post in the future.
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Yeah you're pretty friendly and polite and non-judgemental, aren't you? One post that isn't exactly what you want and suddenly I'm never to speak to you again? You call that reasonable?

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So, in conclusion, I'm baffelled. You're overreacting. What I did was give you a suggestion you didn't like. I ask you what harm came with it, and I ask you how I was to know not to post it with no prior knowledge of what exactly you wanted. I ask you why you decided I was attacking you based on gender and why harp on it so much even when it's not really relevant. If you had asked, for foot fetish stories or something else I'm not relaly into and I had posted a link you didn't ahppen to like i would have spoken exactly the same way.

Oh, and jsut by way of showing that I know something about the gender thing, since you insist on bringing it up, what you were talking about with American Indians is called being "two spirited". It is genreally well respected in that culture and there is a great deal of cultural confusion at the present time because of the effects of European values and traditional Judae-Christian gender roles.

(PS Its about 5 am and I'm tired. i think i've mostly made sense but some of my spelling/grammer may be subpar. Forgive me for that.)