Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
Umm... Submissive and slave are two different things.

I'm not a submissive. I am dominant. I have been involved in the bdsm lifestyle for thirteen years now.

I don't consider myself to be a "typical" dominant, either. I don't capitalize my my's, nor any of my other pronouns. I also don't feel it necessary to capitalize my status as a dominant. It's personal choice, of course, and I'm not going to condemn others for the way they type.

Well, I'm getting a little off-topic here. Sorry for that. Looking back on things, I'm very happy to have found out about bdsm and the surrounding lifestyle. I'm also incredibly happy to have found out about this website. I like the diversity of the fetishes and the fact that people don't seem to mind reading them. I don't see others judging people for their thoughts here. I have seen too much of that lately in chat rooms and alternative lifestyle websites. So, keep up the great work and I will contribute as much and as often as I can to this site.
Hi! I too just found this forum, and agree with this quote (although I did snip some of it for length)

I am the dominant person in our twosome as well, although I don't feel the need to shout it out to everyone that knows us. My sub is my best friend; we don't live together (I live with my unsuspecting husband, I'm ashamed to say), but we do spend alot of quality time with each other.
In her professional world, she is 'someone', going ever higher and higher; she's very ambitious. I am not; I run my own little business, in my own little world. Because we are best friends, it is not at all unusual for her to take me on a business trip with her, which can lead to all kinds of interesting scenes. She is a highly controling person; we met when I worked for her many years ago. Once she explained that she 'valued' things more if she had to work hard for them, our relationship changed from friends, to lovers, to dom/sub. She also likes being punished, which was an unusual scene for meek & mild me to understand. However, a tour around a good BDSM library sure sparked my imagination - and my dom side - and we're having a great time.
When she goes away without me, we have great telephone scenes; they can be almost as erotic as the real thing. She has a webcam on her laptop computer, so I can watch her but she can't see me to judge my reaction to what she may be doing. These are the trips where she comes home so aroused and I know she's been like that for a few days.
Hmmm, I might have to refuse to go on the next trip ...

Spanker (and spankee)