Originally posted by GaryWilcox


So would one of your standards in your fantasies be a caucasian with a Bachelor's degree? Or would it require more than that? Or is less attractive, too?
well, standards in my fantasies.... if we're talking about fantasy doms, then yes, a causasian dom who is at least my intellectual equal, financially stable and basically be compatible with me in terms of age, physical appearance, and a couple other things.

but then again, that's fantasy. i really doubt that it's possible to find such a person in real life who loves me, and whom i love as well. even if i look really really hard. that's why real life, usually isnt even close to what we have in fantasies.

so what i have in real life is a caucasian dom who's my intellectual equal who's financially stable. and yeah, the full stop comes in here. but strangely. i dont get as bothered as i do by the age difference and his looks, as i would, if it was just another asian bf. perhaps, all things being equal, and he was asian instead of caucasian, i think the likelihood of me being together with him will be like practically zero. i dunno, but i'm thinking i'll probably have the 'he's a dirty old man' type of impression. and stay way clear of him.

so yes. i think the human mind is a really strange thing. that something so simple as race, can cause a totally different impression. i dunno. but for practical reasons, such as parental objections and stuff like this....i'm having this strong feeling that love does not conquer all. cos sometimes.... your life, isnt YOURS alone. you have to factor in other people's opinions, wishes, and loads of other stuff when you make decisions. which sometimes stink big time. because it is kinda..... stupid if you cant live your own life just the way you want. but.... this is life...