Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52
Too many subs are totally invested in their dom's happiness and will suffer in silence far beyond the limits of their own pleasure.
that is so right. and i had to learn that lesson the hard way. without going into too much detail, as it was so embarassing at the time, i used my safeword for the first time in play that ended with me having an extremely sore clit. i'm talking SORE...couldn't touch it for like a week, sore. the first few days, if i sat down wrong and felt any pressure on my clit...omg...i had tears in my eyes.

i could sit here and take the blame for the whole ordeal...i know i should have called out my safeword earlier and i don't deny that i am partially to blame. i had just convinced myself that i would never need my safeword. i can't explain my mental state at the time, but i didn't want to fail him. so i held out and suffered badly for it.

luckily i learned my lesson and although i've never had to invoke my safeword since that day...i know that if the situation ever presented itself, i wouldn't hesitate...and it is not a sign of failure. that's why i'm grateful for places like these forums...where we can share out experiences, good or bad, and hope that someone else is able to learn from our mistakes...and save themselves from a great deal of needless suffering.