Quote Originally Posted by delia
anita, once i read your post, i realized that perhaps my point hadn't come across right... i wasn't meaning in the 1950's housewife way, but in the submissive way, although as you did mention, sometimes those two ways are close...

there are other things besides "domestic" chores that can make your Dom/me relaxed and feel better... my main point is that play isnt ALWAYS the mechanism through which a submissive can act...

I think what you are trying to say ---is that in the lifestyle ---it is not all about play ---but about caring also ----you do not have to be a sub to care that your partner is tired ---and want to help them relax---yet this is also a part of a subs life ----I as a Dom ---if my sub is tired or feeling bad ---I care enough about her to try to ease the way she is feeling ---help her relax ---if she is sick take care of her as she would me ----that part is not strictly being a Dom or a sub ---but should be part of any relationship