Dear Lost One

You have actually taken the really big first step already. By getting out there and laying it all out you have taken your life in hand and are doing something about it.

You have a kink that many out there in the world regard as abnormal. These folks, including obviously your counsellor, regard BDSM as a disease to be cured by expurgating a dragon within. That is the mark of an immature counsellor.

It is far healthier to do what you are now doing.

Welcome to this site. As you can see from the caring correspondence you have already exchanged that the BDSM community is not entirely composed of assholes and freaks. On this site we have a very reasonable code of conduct that encourages civility. This helps to encourage nice people and drive off some of the nastier individuals. Now it is your turn. Write, communicate, participate. Maybe you may not be able to meet may people in your geographic community that share your itch, but there are many of us here in this corner of the cybercommunity that do.

Above all, why not try your hand at a bit of fiction or a fantasy. Who knows, you may enjoy writing and the feeling that goes with having written a story that somebody actually liked.