Originally posted by Harold
I agree. The remark was intended to be taken metaphorically rather than literally. I put "lifestylers" in quotes because I consider it an imprecise term. I'm painting with a broad brush here, but the point I'm trying to make is that there are significant numbers of women who are turned on by the idea of being dominated sexually but are themselves often quite dominant in other aspects of their lives.

That does not seem to be the case for many of the women who post on this forum. These are just observations and are not intended to be judgmental. However, I think we're really all saying the same thing here. There is quite a broad range of interest in the subject. Choose the level that works for you.
Even though I am a submissive, I am submissive to only one person. Towards everyone else in my life, I have a very dominant, aggressive personality. I always have. But with TG I am submissiv. He is the only person so far that has been able to bring out this side of me, though I must admitt that it does resist sometimes. lol.

But I do agree completely with you, Harold. Do what works for you. There is not right and wrong way of doing it. If it feels right, then it is right. Anyone who tells you that you are doing it wrong and that they know everything there is to know about BDSM and that you should be following there example is wrong. Even the most experienced have things to learn...or so it has been in my experience.