Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
... that there's no trust in your relationship?

Why else would you have to prove that you are carrying out his orders? If I gave an order, I would assume it was done.
i cannot tell you how much i agree with you on this TG....if you keep having to check up on someone, once you have established a relationship, then you don't have trust, in addition to which you possibly don't really have D/s either. Infact, i quite like the fact that a Dominant would (as you put it) "give an order and assume that it was done", it is extremely pleasing from a submissive point of view to know this is the case.

i do agree with jazz tho in that it is sometimes easier to get to know someone a lot quicker and in more depth (mentally speaking) o/l than it is in r/l and in fact i think this is the one thing o/l has over r/l and is probably what you are referring to TG when you say that you make use of this aspect in terms of getting to know a person, not just beyond the physical ('how far they can get their legs behond their head - lol!) but without being distracted by the physical.....hence why i also agree with you about the webcam issue.

Each to their own tho i guess, i doubt most guys are quite as cerebral and patient as you are TG

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