Hello Rick,

I would recommend that you start off by reading Aesop's thread http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4529

and then take a look at the humourous take at the more common errors of some new online Doms http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5363

and then come back to us with any more specific questions which you may have.

cariad