Venus gives excellent suggesions.

For myself, I remember a defining moment that I was afraid to mention. My boyfriend ( longggg time ago) had been somewhat playful and i ended up with both wrists firmly in his grasps as he strenched them above my head. I had had a lifelong desire never spoken of to be bound. Later it was my subtle reference to how he proberbly felt "powerful" able to subdue me as he had.

I did not know how to mention my desire for him to take that further, and stubled upon a movie in a video store, (Behind the Green Door) and rented it, of course he loved it. Since he knew i did not like blue films, he noticed my interest in the beginning, and from there we were able to start talking...

The rest as they say is history! *smirk*

Good luck

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