Hello Tally, My suggestion to your post is that You and your submissive sit down and thoroughly discuss as to what each of Y/you seek to get out of this relationship; likes/dislikes, any limits, expectations of E/each other, behavior inside/outside of the bedroom/dungeon, rewards/punishments, and so forth. This will make for a good understanding as to what is expected/required of E/each other in building a good foundation for the relationship. There is much more to be gained within a D/s relationship than instilling fear by dominating someone through means of physical punishment in order to achieve the submission You may seek. Balance of both nurturing the submission and the knowledge of punishment if the submissive fails to abide by the rules of engagement is a must. It's much more enjoyable for both parties when there is a clear understanding as to what is expected of E/each other and those expectation are met willingly and freely. I have many references on My profile page that may assist you in achieving what it is you may need to learn to further understand the roles of Dominant/submissive; to include a informal contract where those expectations can be listed and used as the guideline of Y/your everyday interaction with E/each other. It will require an indepth and open discussion between the two parties to openly identify what is it that Y/you both wish to get out of this relationship. Best of luck in accomplishing this.
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