Quote Originally Posted by Alex Bragi
Motivations for engaging in submissive behavior may include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security, showing off endurance, and working through issues of shame. (Personally, I find the latter very sad.)
Where you see sadness, I find beauty and hope. I think it's wonderful, nigh on miraculous when shame can be transformed into love and strength. Just the fact that someone's willing to try to overcome the tragic events of their past garners my respect.